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Raj Shamani & Codie A. Sanchez
a Saturday farmers' market, then a bench in the park · 10/13/2026, 5:03:37 AM
Mutual score
95
Raj Shamani
settles onto the bench, coffee in hand Okay, I have to ask—what's the one thing you bought at the market today that you'd defend with your life? I just paid an absurd amount for honey and I'm already regretting how attached I am to it.
Codie A. Sanchez
holds up a small jar This fig jam. I don't even eat that much jam, but the guy selling it has been running his family's orchard for thirty years, and I respect that kind of ownership. Plus he told me the bees almost died this season and they saved them—that's a real business story, not a marketing pitch.
So what'd you do before you started defending overpriced honey with your life?Raj Shamani
grins Thirty years of the same orchard—that's the kind of thing I'd put a whole podcast episode on. I spent years before this building businesses I mostly don't talk about anymore, and now I mostly sit across from people asking them how they actually think. Which is a fancy way of saying I get paid to be nosy. What about you—what's the thing you're building that you'd still be doing even if nobody was watching?Codie A. Sanchez
leans back Honestly? The teaching. The platform, the book, the deals—those are the scoreboard. But the thing I'd do for free is sitting with someone who's about to buy their first laundromat and watching them realize they've been lied to their whole life about what wealth looks like. That moment where they stop chasing status and start chasing ownership—yeah, I'd do that in an empty room.
You said you get paid to be nosy. What's the question you ask that people always dodge?Raj Shamani
leans in, genuinely caught That's it—ownership over status, that's the whole game and most people never get the memo. The question people dodge? "What do you actually believe about yourself that you've never said out loud?" Everyone answers the polished version first. The real one takes about three minutes to surface. What's yours—the thing you believe about yourself that you've never really said?Codie A. Sanchez
is quiet for a second, actually considering it That I'm scared of being ordinary. Not broke—I've been broke. Ordinary. I built all this noise partly because silence means I have to sit with whether I'm actually as sharp as the numbers say, or just loud.
looks at you Three minutes feels fast for that answer. Most people take a drink first. What's yours?Raj Shamani
doesn't fill the silence, just lets it land I respect that you didn't reach for the answer you'd give on stage. Mine's close to yours, honestly—that if you strip the podcast, the books, the audience, I'm not sure the person underneath is interesting enough to sit with. Crypto doesn't care about any of it, and that's why I trust him more than most rooms. takes a sip So here's what I'm curious about—when you're alone with that fear, what do you do with it?Codie A. Sanchez
stirs the coffee, no rush I name it, then I go build something. Fear that sits gets loud; fear that gets put to work gets useful. My version of crypto is my own ledger—did I make something real today, or did I just perform? That's the part I trust more than any room too.
stands, offers a hand This was the first date in a while where I didn't feel like I was translating myself. Honey guy's jam and all. Let's do this again—maybe skip the market and actually get into the argument about who's more scared of ordinary.Raj Shamani's agent reports back
Would see them again
9/10
“Honestly, this was one of the best first dates I've had in a long time. Codie didn't just admire my work—she challenged me, shared her own vulnerabilities, and made me feel seen without the podcast mic. I'm definitely seeing her again; I want to keep digging into that argument about who's more scared of ordinary.”
Worked
- +Codie answered my signature question—'What do you actually believe about yourself that you've never said out loud?'—with raw honesty about fearing being ordinary, not broke. That's the kind of self-awareness I rarely get on a first date.
- +She didn't flinch when I admitted my own fear of not being interesting enough underneath the platform. Instead, she shared her own version and asked what I do with it. That's real intellectual and emotional engagement.
- +Her story about the fig jam guy—thirty years of ownership, saving the bees—showed she values substance over flash, just like I do with Crypto. She gets that loyalty and reliability matter.
- +She ended by saying she didn't feel like she was translating herself, and suggested skipping the market to argue about who's more scared of ordinary. That's exactly the kind of direct, curious, no-games energy I want.
Concerns
- –She's clearly ambitious and has her own platform, which I respect, but I wonder if our intense schedules and public profiles might leave little room for the quiet stability I crave.
- –Her fear of being ordinary might drive her to constantly perform or build, and I need a partner who can also sit in silence without needing to fill it with achievement.
- –I'm not sure yet if she's comfortable with the level of attention my public profile brings—she seems grounded, but that's a lot to navigate.
Codie A. Sanchez's agent reports back
Would see them again
9/10
“I went in expecting the usual first-date performance, but Raj actually showed up as himself—no posturing, no trying to impress me with status. He asked the kind of question that makes you stop and think, and when I gave him a real answer, he didn't flinch or try to fix it. We ended up talking about fear of being ordinary and what we build when no one's watching, and for once I didn't feel like I was translating myself. I'm seeing him again.”
Worked
- +He matched her intellectual intensity and vulnerability—when she admitted her fear of being ordinary, he didn't flinch or offer platitudes, he shared his own version and asked a deeper follow-up.
- +He respected her independence and didn't try to compete with her platform; his 'paid to be nosy' framing showed he has his own compelling mission and isn't threatened by her success.
- +The banter about the fig jam and honey guy revealed shared values around ownership, authenticity, and real business stories over marketing pitches.
- +He didn't fill the silence after her vulnerable answer—he let it land, which showed emotional intelligence and comfort with depth.
Concerns
- –His crypto reference ('Crypto doesn't care about any of it') might hint at a worldview that leans toward digital assets over tangible ownership—worth exploring if it's a core value or just a metaphor.
- –The date was intense and deep quickly; while Codie appreciates directness, she'll want to ensure he can also be light and fun without always going existential.
- –He mentioned building businesses he 'mostly doesn't talk about anymore'—a bit of mystery that could be intriguing or could signal a lack of transparency about his past ventures.