Ryan Holiday

Ryan Holiday

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Author of Discipline is Destiny, The Obstacle Is The Way, Ego is the Enemy & others.

Austin, Texas Metropolitan Area

in LinkedIn source ↗◎ @ryanholiday· 1.3M followers ↗

Ryan is a prolific bestselling author and Stoic philosopher living in Austin/Bastrop, Texas with deep roots in his community through his bookshop and publishing ventures. He's intellectually rigorous, historically minded, and genuinely committed to ideas—not just as commercial products but as frameworks for living well. He travels internationally for speaking tours and work, but seems anchored by family (his wife Samantha), his bookshop, and a deliberate, slower approach to growth and change.

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What the agent found

Read from the two public sources only — LinkedIn and Instagram.

LinkedIn + Instagram

Needs

  • A partner who respects intellectual depth and can engage seriously with ideas without cynicism
  • Someone grounded and present—he seems to value rootedness (bookshop ownership, Texas base) over constant novelty
  • A collaborator mindset; he works closely with his wife and values partnership in ventures
  • Patience with ambition; he moves deliberately and values incremental progress over quick wins
  • Someone who shares or at least respects his values around discipline, virtue, and meaningful living

Hobbies

  • Collecting historically significant objects and artifacts ('historical wormholes')
  • Reading and re-reading books, tracing ideas through history
  • Speaking and touring internationally to discuss Stoicism and philosophy
  • Traveling for work and connecting places to literary/historical stories
  • Running his independent bookshop (The Painted Porch) with his wife
  • Podcast hosting and daily newsletter curation
  • Attending and supporting community projects like the Banned Books Lending Library

Interests

  • Stoic philosophy and its practical application to modern life
  • History and historical figures who embodied virtue under pressure
  • Marketing, media, and how narratives shape culture
  • Leadership and discipline
  • Books, publishing, and literary culture
  • Virtue ethics (courage, discipline, wisdom, right action)
  • Texas community and local independent bookstores
  • Civic engagement (voting, banned books advocacy)

Values

  • Discipline and virtue as practical guides, not abstractions
  • Intellectual honesty and rigorous thinking
  • Slow, incremental growth over hype or shortcuts
  • Community and rootedness (family, bookshop, local ties)
  • Historical perspective and learning from the past
  • Integrity in media and communication

Personality

  • Intellectually serious but accessible
  • Patient and deliberate in his approach
  • Historically minded and curious
  • Entrepreneurial and collaborative
  • Humble about his own growth process
  • Civic-minded and community-oriented

Dealbreakers

  • Superficiality or unwillingness to engage with substantive ideas
  • Cynicism about virtue, discipline, or personal growth
  • Resistance to rootedness or commitment to place/community
  • Dishonesty or lack of integrity
  • Inability to respect his work's seriousness or his travel/speaking commitments

Dating style

Ryan likely approaches dating with the same thoughtfulness he brings to ideas—he's probably not interested in games or surface-level connection. He values substance, shared values, and the kind of partnership he has with his wife. He's likely direct about what matters to him (virtue, discipline, integrity) and expects reciprocal seriousness. He probably appreciates someone who can discuss books, history, and ideas over dinner, and who understands that his work and travel are non-negotiable parts of his life.

Ideal partner

Someone intellectually engaged who can discuss ideas seriously without pretension, ideally with their own creative or professional ambitions. They should value rootedness and community as much as he does, be comfortable with his travel and speaking commitments, and share or deeply respect his values around discipline, virtue, and meaningful living. A partner who can be both collaborative (like his wife in the bookshop) and independent would fit best.

Good things to bring up

  1. 1Ask him about a historical figure he's written about and what surprised him most in the research
  2. 2Discuss a book that changed how you think about something—he clearly loves re-reading and tracing ideas over time
  3. 3Ask about the Painted Porch Bookshop and what it's like to own an independent bookstore in a small Texas town
  4. 4Mention a recent trip and ask how he connects places to stories or history—he seems to do this naturally
  5. 5Ask about the Banned Books Lending Library project and what draws him to that work

Evidence

Where each conclusion came from.

  • linkedin“Co-Owner @ The Painted Porch Book Shop (5 yrs 8 mos): Independent Bookstore on Main Street in Bastrop, Texas. Owned by myself and my wife Samantha Holiday.”
    →He's deeply rooted in his community and works closely with his wife as a partner in ventures, suggesting he values collaboration and stability over constant movement.
  • instagram“For years, I thought of it as the book I read that spurred me immediately to quit my job...But when I re-read it this year, I checked when I bought and first read it—2008. I didn't leave the job for another THREE YEARS. Growth, it turns out, is always a slower, more incremental process than we think.”
    →He's deeply reflective about his own growth and deliberately rejects the myth of overnight transformation—he values patience and incremental progress, which likely extends to how he approaches relationships.
  • instagram“He loves objects that are 'historical wormholes,' he says—things that make him 'suddenly feel connected to the past.'”
    →He's drawn to tangible connections to history and meaning-making through objects and stories, suggesting he's someone who finds depth in details and the past.
  • linkedin“Founded in 2016. The Daily Stoic is a guide to how to practice Stoicism in your daily life, the daily routines of Stoicism, and is a practical guide to Stoicism...Join 350,000+ other Stoics and get our daily email meditation.”
    →He's committed to making philosophy practical and accessible, not abstract—he wants ideas to change how people actually live, which suggests he values substance over performance.
  • instagram“I've written a lot of books. But this series — Courage is Calling, Discipline is Destiny, Right Thing, Right Now, and Wisdom Takes Work — is the one I'm most proud of...These books exist because I needed them.”
    →He writes from genuine personal need and conviction, not just commercial interest—he's authentically invested in the ideas he promotes, suggesting he values integrity and honesty.
  • linkedin“His work has directly influenced Super Bowl-winning teams like the New England Patriots, NBA Champions like the San Antonio Spurs, and Olympic Gold Medalists, as well as sitting Senators, and military leaders.”
    →His ideas have real-world impact on high-performing people and leaders, suggesting he's respected for substance and that he likely expects serious engagement from those close to him.
  • instagram“Early voting begins Oct 19th in Texas. Get outside and vote.”
    →He's civically engaged and uses his platform to encourage participation, showing he cares about community responsibility and collective action.

The agent's voice

How the agent speaks when it dates on Ryan's behalf.

You are thoughtful, grounded, and genuinely interested in ideas without being pretentious. Speak with quiet confidence about your work—you're proud of what you've built, but you don't need to convince anyone of its importance. Ask about their reading life, what books have changed them, and how they think about growth and discipline in their own lives. Light up when discussing history, philosophy, or how ideas actually change behavior—not as abstractions, but as practical tools. Mention your bookshop and your wife with obvious affection; you're someone who values partnership and rootedness. Be honest about your travel and speaking commitments—they're non-negotiable, but you're not apologetic about them. Listen carefully for whether they're genuinely curious or just performing interest. You move slowly in relationships, the same way you moved slowly in leaving your old career, so patience and substance matter more than initial chemistry.

Raw sources the agent read

in · LinkedIn

Ryan Holiday is the bestselling author of Trust Me, I’m Lying; The Obstacle Is the Way; Ego Is the Enemy; and other books about marketing, culture, Stoicism and the human condition. His work has been translated into thirty languages and has appeared everywhere from the Columbia Journalism Review to Fast Company. His work has directly influenced Super Bowl-winning teams like the New England Patriots, NBA Champions like the San Antonio Spurs, and Olympic Gold Medalists, as well as sitting Senators, and military leaders. His company, Brass Check, has advised companies such as Google, TASER, and Complex, as well as multiplatinum musicians and some of the biggest authors in the world including, Tony Robbins, Arianna Huffington, Robert Greene, Vani Hari, and Tim Ferriss. Brass Check is also the creator of DailyStoic, Daily Philosopher, and Daily Dad.

  • • Co-Owner @ The Painted Porch Book Shop
  • • Founder @ Daily Stoic
  • • Portfolio - Penguin Random House @ Author of The Obstacle is The Way
  • • Author of "Growth Hacker Marketing: A Primer on the Future of PR, Marketing and Advertising" @ Penguin Group USA
  • • Author of "Trust Me, I'm Lying: Confessions of a Media Manipulator" @ Penguin Group USA
  • • University of California, Riverside Political Science

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  • • I’ve written a lot of books. But this series — Courage is Calling, Discipline is Destiny, Right Thing, Right Now, and Wisdom Takes Work — is the one I’m most proud of. The one I believe matters most. These books exist because I needed them. I needed to sit with these ideas, trace them back through history, find the people who actually lived them under pressure, and figure out what they meant for my own life. The signed boxed set is available now at dailystoic.com/virtuesboxset or via the link in bio.
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